I had a client the other day that was dealing with some dating issues and as I sat there brainstorming with her, I had déjà vu.
I had heard this story several times before and I want to share with you the results of our session.
We want to publish your story I keep texting with both J. I’m finding interesting things in common with B., and I’m looking forward to meeting him and going on a date.
asked me to dinner for Thursday the following week.
I normally Internet stalk my online dating connections pretty thoroughly.
But life had gotten busy, and for a few days I was swiping right on Coffee Meets Bagel without my normal due diligence. Both seemed nice, but I was having trouble keeping them straight.
But the very first time I introduced myself to my now boyfriend, I said, “Hi, I’m Beth. Your friend [J.] says ‘Hi.’” He looked confused for just a second, and then he put the pieces together to figure out where I’d just been.
If he only wants to be friends and you still have feelings for him, save the palling around for when you have been able to hit the reset button on your feelings.
I grabbed my laptop and coaxed Google into telling me the life stories of these two guys, let’s call them J. I found out that they both went to the same small college in Kentucky.
I have a very low tolerance for drama and would have avoided striking up conversations with two best friends.
But our date started very late, and I know I won’t have much time before my date with B.
and I are enjoying dinner, talking about music and movies and siblings and jobs. ”Again, I decide honesty is the best policy.“Yeah, actually I am. ”“Definitely,” he said, “He’s a really great guy.” Then he adds: “Do you think you guys are going to meet up?
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He proceeds to give her 'mixed messages' by holding her hand and kissing her. Just because you felt a connection and/or had a good time doesn't mean the other person feels the same way. Deal with the here and now and save the daydreaming for further along in the relationship.